Cody and I are the ultimate jet setters. We have traveled all over the globe and being pretty young and without children, we are nowhere near finished traveling. I doubt we will ever stop. Something that gets in your blood like this is hard to put down. In fact, I find that if I am home for too long I start feeling a bit depressed. Travel for me is somewhat a necessity.
So what happens when travel takes you in different directions most of the time? Cody's primary work is wrestling. Wrestling is one of many travel related things I do. We usually aren't on the same page workwise, which is important. We have different goals and different dreams. As a true 2017 couple, we are both allowing each other to chase our dreams. I'm very glad we have a relationship that allows both parties to dream chase. The older I get, the more of a rarity it seems to be that one partner is not having to make major sacrifices. I'm fortunate for that and grateful.
This morning I had a 4am wake up call to travel from Vancouver back to LA. Cody had gone to set the night before at 5pm, and was prepared to shoot until about 5am the next day and go straight to the airport. I did not expect to see him until after the weekend. At about 3am my heart leapt into my throat as I heard someone playing with the door handle to my hotel room. I got up and looked in the peep hole. It was my husband. With all of his bags. He could have stayed in his trailer on set and slept, which would have been MUCH easier for him. Or he could come back to the room, sacrifice sleep and see his wife again...just for an hour. He made the right call. I would have done the same.
When you have crazy schedules making time like this is so important. Cody always says "if you know it's a stress, then it's not a stress". We know that a lot of times our travel schedules are going to be stressful. But we got the memo, and the heads up, there's no reason to have a meltdown. Instead, embrace it and make the most of it.
If I know I'm not going to get any sleep, I may as well have fun with my husband. This isn't irresponsible, it's the exact opposite. Irresponsibility would be ignoring my primary commitment, my marriage, for the sake of my career. Of course there are times when it's not possible to see each other, he's in Japan and I'm in Canada...well there's no way to make that work. But, thats why I come with him if I've nothing pressing going on, and via versa. I came to Vancouver for a few days, because I knew I had the time to carve out. In a few weeks I will not have that time and luxury as I begin filming for another project myself. By that time, Cody should have some time off and he can come be with me while I'm working.
This has been a particularly busy month. Usually, we only spend a couple of days apart, but there are months when we spend a week or two apart. But it never changes. When you care you make time. FaceTime, phone calls, texts, love notes. All great ways to keep relationships fresh and fun when you're absent from one another.
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. That is true. In situations I see husbands and wives take each other for granted, but then when one of them has to take a trip without the other, they panic. After the long weekend apart they are usually jumping at the chance to see one another again. That's our life pretty regularly (not the taking each other for granted part, we do get on each other's nerves sometimes, but they are few and far in between, and always short lived). But the excitement of seeing each other again after every time we spend apart. It's almost electric. Would I rather have my husband around all of the time? Sure! And I'm sure he'd say the same about me. But I want him to live out his dreams. That's the thrilling entertainment lifestyle. You go where the work calls your name and wherever else the wind blows. Wouldn't change it for anything. At least not right now 😊